Thursday, 23 June 2016

Looking and Asking

 She lies in the hospital bed, frail but her mind very much alive.
She wants to go home, her refuge, the place where her memories are held.    My Mother has terminal cancer.   We do not know how long she has.
My brother and I are working hard to make her last wish come true.     Putting care in place is taking much too long but we will not give up.     Time is precious to her......I need to give her that time.


Poppi and Riley visited Great Grandma in hospital.    I am so very proud of them.    Just losing their Father and looking death in the face once again, they comforted Ruby.     They sat at her bedside holding her hand and listened to the stories she had to tell.         The human spirit is a  wonderful thing.  

It seems that life is testing us all,  to see just how much we can endure.         I have found incredible comfort and the peace I need in my garden................Poppi and Riley will be staying at the weekend.     Time to talk, time to comfort, time to care.......................

16 comments:

  1. Thank you all for your kind comments on my last post.
    I cannot tell you just how much they supported during a very difficult time...........

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  2. 2016 is turning out to be your annus horribilis isn't it. So sorry to hear about your mother - it is always a tough time watching someone you love suffer. I tried to write to you, but to be honest, words failed me - I couldn't find the right words. Hope you get through this dreadful period in your life without too much pain. Gardens are wonderful for giving solace - I hope the children are bearing up - hard to imagine what they are going through. Much love. Elaine.

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  3. Oh Cheryl, sometimes life is so hard... My prayers and thoughts to you and your family... And I believe every one should be able to live out their last days where they are at peace.

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  4. Life is not easy and you are dealing with a very difficult time. Hang in there knowing there are supporting prayers and thoughts coming your way. I hope you get your Mom home so she can be as comfortable as possible.

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  5. Such tough times, I wish you all the strength

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  6. Aw sweetie, you've had an incredibly hard year, sending you love x

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  7. This is too much to bear, life can be hard. I hope you can fulfill your mother's wish and I can only wish you all the strength you will need in these difficult days. To have a garden can be so comforting and the grandchildren will give you the needed distraction from all the sad things happening in the family.
    Hugs, Janneke

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  8. Oh, so sorry you are facing yet another painful time in your life. I know you will cherish the weekend with the children. Caring thoughts are flying through the air to you.

    I hope you are able to put together all that is necessary to bring your mother home. But even if time is not on your side, you can take comfort in knowing that you gave it your all.

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  9. Oh, Cheryl, I am so sorry. Sometimes it seems as if life just throws everything at you all at once. Sending prayers of strength to you to get through this difficult time. We had hospice care for my mother her last month and a half, and it was wonderful. She wasn't able to go home, but at least she didn't have to go back to the hospital every time she had a crisis. I hope that you are able to find a similar service to enable your mother to go home, as she wishes.

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  10. Dear Cheryl, I am sending my sincerest thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Words are never sufficient in a time like this. I realize that. But we are all here for you nevertheless.

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  11. Ahhhh Cheryl, how heartbreaking for you. I do hope you get the care for your mum so she can go home and enjoy her memories, these things are so important and while we are alive we still have a life and things to enjoy. I'm so sorry to hear this, and don't have the right words but know I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything goes as well as possible. Enjoy you mum, you obviously love her very much. Sending you love and hugs.xxxxxxx

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  12. Ahhhh Cheryl, how heartbreaking for you. I do hope you get the care for your mum so she can go home and enjoy her memories, these things are so important and while we are alive we still have a life and things to enjoy. I'm so sorry to hear this, and don't have the right words but know I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything goes as well as possible. Enjoy you mum, you obviously love her very much. Sending you love and hugs.xxxxxxx

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  13. Oh my dear Cheryl - I have not been here for a while and am so so sorry to hear this sad news!
    Life seems to be very difficult for you right now and I can only imagine for Poppi and Riley as well.

    Hopefully, your dear mother can get the care she needs at this very precious time in her life. Sending gentle hugs and many prayers your way.

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  14. Cheryl, when I first saw that you had posted and saw the colour in your first photograph my heart lifted ... but then as I read on ...

    I send my heart felt wishes and sincere thoughts to you, as you and the family come to terms with, and take the necessary steps, during the coming weeks and months ...

    Sincerely

    Jan

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  15. Reading your post brought back to my mind what my mother said 16 years ago when she faced open heart surgery. She wanted to live long enough so that her great grandchildren would know her and remember her. Thankfully, she did and at holiday times especially they bring her up and say something about what she did on the holidays. Your precious grandchildren will remember your mother and that is a great gift they have been given.

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